12 Oct Letting Go of Your Feng Shui Intention: What You Give Out is What Comes Back
Sometimes, despite your honest and open-hearted approach, it seems like the intentions you used for specific Feng Shui adjustments are not only NOT materializing but you may actually be heading in the opposite direction. Even though you’re pretty sure you did everything correctly, it feels like you must have done something wrong or, in truth, Feng Shui doesn’t work for everyone.
In my work I’ve seen honest and sincere people adjust for money without much of any positive results. I watched a woman named Emily exhaust all options for a partner until she finally gave up, resigning herself to being single. I consulted with someone (Kelly) who wanted to move away from her parents—-even cried about it—-but couldn’t make it happen despite many, many Feng Shui approaches.
Here are some questions to ask yourself to help you understand what may be going on when it seems like your Feng Shui isn’t working for you. . . . .
1. Are you sure you’re clear about what you want? Just to say something like “I want a different job” doesn’t outline what you want. A better way would be to say “I want a job that pays me 25% more than I’m making, a job where I can be around more people and a job that is within two miles of my house.” Now THAT’s a specific and measurable intention. Listing the parameters around what you want will enable you to come closer to that goal.
2. Have you given it enough time? People often ask me how long it will take before their Feng Shui adjustment will kick in and realize their intention. Sometimes there is indeed a quick result—-a house sells right away, a new job comes along within a few days, money arrives in the mail. On the other hand, I’ve also seen Feng Shui adjustments take longer than expected. Timing is a factor in all this change.
3. Deep down are you wondering whether you deserve such magnificence in your life? If your intention is overlaid with guilt and self-doubt, it will be difficult to manifest what you’re asking for. Putting out the request and receiving it are two different sides to the Feng Shui coin. I’ve found that some deep and raw issues can come to the surface, some of which may be painful to face, yet necessary in order to move forward with the intentions you truly desire.
4. How comes it feels like your intention and corresponding adjustment made things worse? This is actually a good sign because the energy has been stirred and something is indeed happening. Often in order to leap forward, you have to take a step back first to gain momentum. Celebrate this kind of movement. It may look like things are going backward, when, in fact, they are breaking an old pattern.
So working with Feng Shui is about your commitment to the process without obsession, and openness without controlled timing. Kelly (mentioned above) did move out from her parents’ home after she realized what was holding her back was guilt at leaving her elderly parents to fend for themselves. Not suited to being a caregiver for them, she hired someone to do just that so she could find a place of her own. Now she happily visits them weekly. Emily’s partner emerged within six months of her resignation to being single. In her mind, it was worth the wait!